The great awakening has begun and is only going to continue through the next few years…all will be affected. Many are like me, First Wave lightworkers (Twin Flames, Empaths, Starseeds, etc.), who are here to assist in the raising the vibration of the planet. We have gone first and have gone through a lot, I mean a fucking lot of shit, in order to clear the way for the rest of humanity to awaken and ascend. The 3D density of Gaia, or Earth, is falling. In it’s place a 4D density, a lighter world, built from the heart space…where Unity and Christ Consciousness prevail and it is being led by humans who resonate as feminine energy…gender plays no role here, it is just the vehicle…it is the soul I speak of when I say feminine/masculine. The Divine Feminine is rising, awakening to her truth and seeking equality and justice. Not just for them, but for all of humanity. We understand that the masculine’s are just as programmed, of not more so, and just as hurt. We know healing both the masculine and feminine, balancing the energies will heal our children, will create a New Earth for all.
Divine feminines are feeling the call to something better, something different, something magical. Our intuition is off the mother fucking charts, yet we battle with it…change is not easy and we have not been programmed to be independent in every way, to trust ourselves no matter what others think. We are needed though and the Universe is assisting us in awakening/ascension, even if it means making us uncomfortable. The Divine knows we are bad asses and can handle it, learn from it. We are seeing our truths, breaking free from the labels, expectations, judgments and just general fuckery patriarchal programming has caused.
We are walking away from jobs, careers, relationships…anything that no longer serves us, where giving and receiving are not equal. We are fucking pissed at patriarchal programming that has us objectified sexually, demeans our intuitive gifts, teaches nurturing, compassion, grace and gentleness are submissive qualities, that emotions are “weak” and let’s be honest, just the general enslavement and dis-empowerment that has gone on for thousands of years, fucking thousands…it’s time, y’all. The Universe is calling for balance, justice and equality for ALL, no race, no gender, no sexuality biases and Divine Feminines MUST lead the way…WE are leading the way. I see my sisters awakening everyday, I see many in ascension beginning to step into their missions and share their stories, uniting us. It’s so damn exciting, challenging fo’ sho, but so fucking exhilarating to know what’s coming and be a part of a change we never believed we would see.
So where does this start…by loving your damn self. As within, so without. If you want to be treated with respect, then respect yourself…say no, set boundaries and walk the fuck away from anyone/thing that doesn’t. If you want abundance, than think and believe you are abundant, release the guilt, shame and resentment that makes you feel unworthy…practice self care, treat yourself as if you are abundant. If you want love, then be love, forgive and show compassion to those that hurt you…be the perfect partner to/for yourself…take yourself out to eat, to a movie, whatever it is that makes you happy, do it with yourself. The universe will bring your perfect partner when you’re ready. My point, focus on you…your happiness, joy, passions, the life you want to create…the rest will work itself out.
Feminines are guided to me daily for advice on all things spiritual, as well as, healing sessions. I am so happy to help in anyway I can, as I know first hand how amazing, magical and miraculous life can be after awakening. Yes, the soul work of ascension is hard, but the magic and miracles become more and more frequent…a great motivator to continue doing your healing work.
Divine feminines are awakening. Awakening to our power, intuitive gifts, strength, grace and dignity. Releasing shame, guilt, resentment, anger and taking our motherfucking power back. We are like the phoenix, rising from the ashes of patriarchal programming, to lead the way to balance, justice and equality. We lead by example and it all starts with love…self-love.
All female bodies are not the same, nor should they be. AK and I are almost exactly the same age and the same height, for example, but her body is healthiest at a size 0-4, and my body is healthiest at a size 8-12, depending on the brand. I have a broader, more bulkily muscled frame than she does. Her frame and muscles are lean. We’re both beautiful in our own way, and we think all women are too. For us, the goal is to be as healthy as possible, and if we look great, that’s a bonus.
However, if you watch TV or movies, look in fashion magazines and on popular Instagram accounts, you’ll find that the vast majority of women are size 00-4. They might be tall and lean like Taylor Swift, Allison Janney, or Blake Lively, or they may be short and tiny like Ariana Grande and Jada Pinkett Smith, or somewhere in between like Amanda Seyfried and Megan Fox. All of those ladies are beautiful, but Hollywood has a type.
I’m glad that in recent years we’ve seen more representation of different body types in the media. Plus size model Ashley Graham is a great representation of that. Still, have you noticed that in film and television, women who don’t fit in a sample size, like Melissa McCarthy and Chrissy Metz, tend to have story lines that are dependant on weight issues? McCarthy and Metz are both incredibly talented, but Hollywood doesn’t really seem to know what to do with them. Melissa McCarthy is a really talented comedian and seems to really enjoy physical comedy, which is great, but she’s rarely shown as the beautiful, strong, kick ass type. Instead, she’s often in an unflattering wig and clothes that don’t fit, and fat jokes abound. Rebel Wilson is another talented, plus sized actor, and she’s best know for her turns in the Pitch Perfect trilogy, in which she plays a character who goes by “Fat Amy.”
Here’s where Penelope Garcia, who has been played by Kirsten Vangsness on CBS’s Criminal Minds, is revolutionary. Vangsness and I have similar shapes, so when I discovered Criminal Minds earlier this year (I know it’s kicking off its 14th season, don’t @ me), I paid attention. I almost never see women my size represented on screen, and I don’t think I’ve ever seen one as strong, powerful, and put together as this character. Vangsness is a size 12 according to a recent article I found, but she, like most women of my size and shape, can go up and down a bit, especially depending on the brand of clothing you’re buying. She’s not technically “plus sized,” but she’s certainly a body type we don’t see much in Hollywood. She discussed the topic in an interview with Pride.com.
“Stylists on the set of the CBS series have gotten a bit of Vangsness’s do-it-yourself spirit as well. “They kept saying, ‘Can you bring your own clothes? We don’t have anything in your size.’ Because in Hollywood they have size zero and size 22,” says Vangsness, who is a size 12. “But if you lie somewhere between the 12 to 16 range…they keep trying to put you into a size 4. It’s the strangest thing. What ends up happening is they buy four size 2 Marc Jacobs dresses and make one size 12. Then someone out in TV land watches it and is like, ‘I can get that dress.’ No, you can’t because you don’t have a seamstress that will alter exactly to your body. I feel for everybody.”
I feel you, girl. We’re also in that size range where straight sizes fit us strangely and most plus size stuff is too big.
The character of Penelope Garcia is a rich and layered one. She’s a brilliant former computer hacker who leaves the dark web to go to work for the good guys, profiling criminals. She’s strong, witty, and doesn’t apologize for the space her body takes up. She’s confident, a great friend and co-worker, and a solutionary. She’s also a bit of a weirdo, wearing bright clothing and usually a few more accessories than fashion dictates. She has romantic relationships with attractive men and a flirtmance with co-worker Derek Morgan, who is played by the ridiculously attractive Shemar Moore. Their platonic friendship is deep, layered with mutual love and respect, but they never cross the boundary into a romantic relationship. The sexy banter between them would be enough that most HR departments would write them up, but it’s sweet, funny, sexy, and a great break in the middle of serious storylines about psychotic serial killers.
What Penelope Garcia doesn’t do is whine about her weight. She doesn’t come into the office bitching that she only eats carrot sticks and still will never be the size of her gorgeous, athletic, thin, co-worker and close friend, J.J. Nobody suggests Keto or Paleo or the Cabbage Soup diet to Garcia. I haven’t heard anyone say, “Oh, Penelope. You have such a pretty face. Have you tried Pilates?” They do invite her out for drinks, confide in her and love her, and she pays that all right back. She’s been on the show for 13 years, and I’ve never seen Penelope Garcia give a fuck about her weight. She’s healthy, she’s happy, and she loves herself. She doesn’t hide her figure in oversized black sweaters; she flaunts it in bright, sometimes crazy, but flattering patterns. Her hair color changes often, and her makeup is bright. This is a woman who isn’t trying to blend into the wallpaper, making self-deprecating jokes, and waiting to start her life when she hits a magical number on the scale. In a world where people call Beyonce fat and where Scarlett Johansson has been turned down for roles because she’s too curvy, Penelope Garcia living her best life is what we need more of, especially since Vangsness is entering her 14th year of playing this groundbreaking character and I don’t see other shows stepping up and showing other 3 dimensional average sized women. Think about this: Criminal Minds premiered just months after Friends Joey, Chandler, Ross, Phoebe, Rachel and Monica took their final bow. I loved Friends, of course, but the Monica fat shaming was a bad trope. In fact, in the episode about what could have been in alternate futures, tiny Courteney Cox was in Monica’s fat suit, portrayed as an awkward 30 year old virgin who had never been in love and doesn’t seem to have any rich relationships in her life. We haven’t evolved enough since then.
But, Mitch, you say, there are other female fictional characters that appear on screen with more weight than we’re used to seeing. Surely, they can’t all have fat plotlines! I haven’t seen every movie or TV show ever made, so that might be true. I think we’re close with the amazing Aidy Bryant on Saturday Night Live. In fact, she did a Weekend Update segment as herself discussing how hard it is to get roles that don’t revolve around her size. She was once offered a part in a movie. The character didn’t have a name-it was just “Ugly Fat Friend.” Aidy is anything but ugly, and to keep up with SNL’s production schedule, guest starring in other TV shows, and doing stand up and other projects, she must be pretty damn healthy. The great thing about SNL, whether you’re a fan or not, is that the actors often do the sketch writing as well. They have more control over what they do and how they’re seen.
Click play to see Aidy owning this song along with her female castmates and guest star Saoirse Ronan.
We also have the hilarious Katy Mixon headlining her own show on ABC, called “American Housewife.” The show was originally entitled, “The Second Fattest Housewife in Westport.” I have to admit, the character is super relatable to me. Katy’s character, Katie Otto, seems pretty happy with who she is, and she has a loving, supportive, thin, capable husband (which is something I’ll get into in a separate post.) The character and her family move to a super affluent area so their children can have the best education possible, but they’re a middle class family in an area like the Hamptons or Calabasas, and the other moms are tiny, mean, and judgemental. Katy keeps it real, and seems to be happy with herself, but it is hard for her to not fit in with the other moms, even if she really dislikes most of them.
She actually creates extra trouble for herself by pushing back against the other parents. She thinks these people are all shallow and materialistic, and for the most part, they are. She’s concerned about her children’s values changing to reflect those of the new community, and she fights it pretty hard. Still, there are several fat jokes in this show, and some of them are pretty cheap. Also, I think it’s important to note that Katie doesn’t make an effort to know most of the juice cleansing, work out clothes wearing, luxury SUV driving moms, so she’s also being judgemental based on looks. I still call it a bit of progress, just not badass Garcia progress. I do want to note that American Housewife has a different kind of progress-Katy’s best female friends are women of color, and one of them happens to be a lesbian. I love the real-life aspect of that. She has friends who don’t look just like her, who come from different backgrounds. She and her husband are very much in love and rarely put each other down, especially not to the extent we see in other sitcoms. They are portrayed as partners, which is good to see.
In today’s society, even though racists and homophobes, abelists and misogynists still run rampant, they’re being called out. It seems like fat jokes are the last frontier for jokes about people. Hell, even Glee, the show that had a “very special episode” and set it’s social justice warrior mission to music every week, had unchecked fat jokes.
Still, it’s TV. It’s the movies; it’s not real life, right? In today’s society people are influenced by pop culture. TV shows, movies, reality stars, and even the President drop cruel words into our ears and onto our screens, and those words embolden people. We become a sum of our experiences, and if we are constantly taking in “jokes” about fatness, about people being different sized, that seeps into the general consciousness. When Trump calls Rosie O’Donnell a disgusting pig and says Heidi Klum is sadly, no longer a 10, it makes people think it’s OK to say those things as well. (Along with all of his other problematic opinions on “others”.) Sadly, I still hear people refer to people they care about as, “my fat friend? The one who you met at my party two years ago?” That’s the rub about being considered average or larger sized in our culture. You’re reduced to one characteristic; two if you’re lucky.
The fat funny girl. The fat girl with great hair. The fat girl who shouldn’t wear skirts that short. The fat bitch. The fat girl who’s got a great personality. The fat girl who is actually really pretty if you get to know her.
So, how do we react to this? How do we stop it? We can support movies made by female directors and screenwriters. Women, even women in Hollywood, have friends who are more than their weight, and that can come through in their storytelling. We can vote with our dollars for TV shows and movies who are doing it right.
In this world, we can use the internet to tell people exactly what we think of them. The comments any celebrity’s instagram will tell you that. So often people tell them they’re fat, they’re unworthy, unattractive. Don’t do that. If you know people who do that, call them out. Tweet at producers and studios that you want to be represented and respected on screen.
Most importantly, love yourself exactly as you are, exactly as you look right now. I’m working on losing weight put on by some medication right now, because the sudden weight increase has been hell on my joints. I’m working on becoming healthier, and for me that’s about 25 lbs of less fat and more muscle than where I am right now, but I’m not putting my life on hold until my favorite jeans fit again. I still love myself and know and respect myself and my journey.
If you have someone in your life that you see as overweight or fat and that’s part of your description of them, even if it’s only in your internal dialogue, stop that shit now. That person is aware of their weight. You don’t need to tell them. They know about diets and exercise, and if they want to work on losing weight or being healthier for themselves, that’s their journey. It’s not yours. It’s fairly likely they are their own worst critic, so you don’t need to tell them that something is tight or doesn’t look good on them. No, not even if you’re “just worried about their health.” Their health is their own damn business. I have friends who eat like shit, don’t exercise, and binge drink regularly. They almost never have people tell them to change because they’re damaging their health. I polled my friends. Unless they’re over size 10 or they’re size 00 or 0, nobody remarks on their “health”. In fact, I have one friend who drinks daily and smokes like a chimney. Nobody said a word to her about her health until she gained a bit of weight. So fuck that.
Everyone’s body is different. I look thin, strong, and healthy at 155-165 lbs if I’ve been working out. AK, who is my height and age, would look completely different at that weight. That’s my peak healthy weight, but for her, I’m not sure if she hit that weight when she was pregnant and felt huge. I have very thin friends with health problems and a friend who is a size 4X whose doctor constantly remarks on how healthy she is overall. Low blood pressure, great cholesterol numbers, etc. She’s working on losing weight, but she’s doing it her way. You don’t get an opinion or comment.
I’m hoping AK will write a post soon about her experience with people telling her she’s too thin. We hit opposite ends of that spectrum, and that’s not OK either. Sorry this is long, but I have words.
-Love, light, health, and the incredible badassery of Kirstin Vangsness AND Penelope Garcia,
You may have noticed that I haven’t been around much lately. My dog, my sweet, sweet bulldog, who was really my favorite person in the entire world, passed away suddenly when my son and I were out of town visiting family in Montana.
There was no warning. He was happy, jumping around, playing with his puppy brother all the time. He’d been swimming in the pool just days before he passed away. The night it happened, my husband called me and said be thought Eddy didn’t feel well. We faced timed and he looked mopey, but OK. He was always moody when his mom wasn’t home. I got to tell him I loved him and I’d be back in a few days.
Two hours later, my husband called to tell me that my best guy was gone. I’d say my heart was broken; is broken, but that doesn’t even begin to describe how deeply I’m feeling this pain and loss. This dog was more than my emotional support animal. He was the sweetest, silliest animal in the world. He came into our home as a 5 month old energetic American Bulldog puppy. When he wasn’t running, he was on my lap. He arrived shortly after I’d been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. The doctors had told me that I had blood markers that indicated I had an autoimmune disorder, but I didn’t check enough boxes yet for a diagnosis.
Eddy was with me. He was there when I had unexplained high fevers and pain. He didn’t mind missing his walk when my joints were too swollen to grasp his leash. Every night, between 9-10 PM, if I was in the living room, he’d growl at me until i went to bed. He wanted to go, but he doesn’t like to sleep alone. He wasn’t a smart dog, but it didn’t matter. He knew love. He knew how to comfort. He made us all laugh more times than we could even count. Every day of the seven and a half years he had on this world was filled with joy.
The night after he died, I was still in Montana with my family. My sleep was restless, but as soon as I woke up I felt the strongest wave of peace roll over my spirit. My sweet baby boy came to me in my dream and spoke to me. He told me that he was sorry he had to leave me, that he didn’t want to, but that it was necessary for him to go now so he could return to me when I need him the most in the future. He’s been back a few more times, reminding me to try to find joy. I feel him with me so, so much.
The best thing I can do right now, I think, is to honor his memory by taking a few risks. I’m going to dive right back into something that’s been a true PASSION in my life. I’m pretty good at most stuff I decide I want to do, and I happen to love working in real estate, but being on stage is what makes me light up. It fills my heart. With my heart feeling so, so broken right now, maybe putting myself out there can mend a shard or two of my heart. Time will help, I’m sure. The feelings I have so often that he’s still right here with me helps too, but I know that I’ll miss him deeply every single day until he returns to me. Little Thor is doing a lot of work around here, spreading his love around. He misses his big lug of a brother too, and I think they may still be communicating too. Sometimes I’ll think of Eddy and when I look at Thor he has his tongue sticking out. There are all kinds of little things like that that make me know that the Vail between the worlds of the living and the dead isn’t as heavy and restrictive as most people think it is.
I’m incredibly grateful that AK and I started our dialogues that have lead us to where we are right now. If feel like I’m growing at a pretty astounding rate. As I dive into spirituality, my mind feels open. I the impulse to be kind to strangers a lot more. I am coming to be really tuned in to my empath abilities. I’m very grateful for that. The more I learn about being an empath, it just checks so many boxes. I’m using this ability to better help my real estate clients. I’m using it to be a better friend. A better wife, mother, and sister. There are no limits, as I’m a firm proponent of lifetime learning.
I think if I hadn’t been going down this spiritual path of self discovery, self love, and self care, I’d be a much bigger mess. I’m still feeling the loss. I’ll sometimes have a memory pop up out of nowhere and it feels like someone has punched me, HARD, in the gut. It makes it hard to breathe. I have techniques and breathing that can help me. I can get up and do some exercise to get endorphins flowing. If this had happened a year ago, I’m pretty sure I’d be looking for answers at the bottom of a bourbon bottle. If it took 3 weeks of constant drunkenness, then that’s what I would have done. That’s not who I am anymore. I’m making healthy choices, physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially. I am going to take control of my life to find a way to build that happiness Eddy always wanted.
I’m proud to know that I’ll be starting Eddy’s Happiness Project. I’m going to spend a lot of time journaling. I’ll start each day by writing gratitudes. Then, I’ll make 3 bucket lists. I’ll have a short term bucket list, a long term bucket list, and an ongoing bucket list.
For example, my first item on my short term bucket list is auditioning for a couple plays with local theater companies. I think short term goals should be fairly easy enough to complete in 3-4 months.
My long term bucket list includes getting a speaking role on a TV show or movie. Even if I’m just there as an extra with a couple of lines, I’m into it. Most of these long term goals should be achievable in 1-2 years. I’ll put longer term goals too, like AK and I flying to Montana, renting a car, and hiking different trails all over the state for a month. I don’t know that we could make a month happen right now, but a few years down the road it should be easily doable if we are clear in our intent, ask the universe for what we want, and do the work it takes to get us there.
My ongoing bucket list will contain things like 5 workouts a week and eating on-plan 80% of the time. It will also show my dedication to my work commitments. That one is important, because I plan to buy myself gifts when I achieve milestones.
I’ll be sharing my results here quite frequently, so please follow along! If you’ve been looking to bring more happiness and joy into your life, this might be a great way to do it. All you need is journal, an open heart, and an open mind. Oh, and pens or pencils, I suppose.
Feel free to contact me at any time if I can be of any help to you!
If you’re trying to to bring yourself up from grief and/or depression, I want to help. Let’s be those rays of happy sunshine that breaks through the clouds of despair.
I have to tell you guys, each time I do one of these chakra blogs, I realize just how out of balance I used to be. The yellow Solar Plexus chakra, located just above your belly button is all about your will and your power. A balanced Solar Plexus is all about confidence, inspired, creative action and owning your personal power. For me, and just about every feminine I know, power and confidence are a struggle. A healthy Solar Plexus is all about courage and confidence, about doing the things you are afraid to do and living your life with integrity…I have to say I don’t see a lot of that going on these days.
I’ve said it before and I will continue to say it until change happens, feminines have been disempowered since the beginning of time. Selfish Mitch and I were having this conversation today, as we are firm supporters of Feminine Empowerment. Don’t get me wrong, masculine’s have their own confidence issues and balancing to do and I am all about Human Empowerment, but I’m going to focus on the feminine’s today. I can honestly say I can recall few times that this chakra was in balance and it’s a fucking shame, because when feminines are in the power, full of confidence, inspiration and creativity we are LIT AF!! It’s where my focus as been, as of late, as I step out of my cocoon and follow my guidance on co-creating the life I dream of.
Procrastination, control freak, second guessing, feeling worthless are all shit I have dealt with for the majority of my life and signs of a blocked Solar Plexus chakra. The only consistent time I can think of my Solar Plexus really in balance, is when I was teaching. Man, when I was in my classroom with my kids I was on fucking fire. Until, the last year of my career, when the reality of the education system and my role in indoctrinating children became crystal clear…but the education system and all our fucked up systems are a blog for another day. I used to be a total control freak, my mother is, almost all of my girlfriends, it’s a fucking problem for feminines because we really feel powerless internally, we grab on to controlling everything we can externally. I’m in a place of deep knowing that most things are out of our control. Everything and I mean EVERY FUCKING THING is Divinely orchestrated, there are no random events, no coincidences in life. I know it’s hard to accept when we’ve been conditioned to believe that we can control everything, but I’m here to tell you…you can’t. What can you control? YOU, that ‘s it, YOU. Your thoughts, your emotions and your actions…so simple…yet, humans makes it so fucking complicated…programming has fucked us all up.
Alright, being transparent, I have to own the fact that I have always been a procrastinator…always. Well, not about things I was passionate about, just all the other shit lol…aren’t most of us? Procrastination is a manifestation of feeling insecure, like your thoughts and feelings don’t really matter, second guessing your thoughts and emotions before acting, so you just don’t act. You start playing the “What If” game, I hate that fucking game. When something feels right, but looks wrong it’s right. We are programmed to a seeing is believing perspective, which is total fucking lie (Thanks Patriarchy) and a blog I’m planning to go deeper into soon. Typically, something will feel right, an idea for a project, or a life change in some way and it will feel inspiring and absolutely the right thing to do…then, you think What If…I fail, I end up broke, I lose a relationship with someone, on and on and on with motherfucking Ego. The fears and insecurities creep in and you stop. This blog, both YouTube channels and starting my own Tarot/Healing business were HUGE fucking risks, it was terrifying, but I did it. Then, I froze…people who know me are going to think I’m bat shit crazy and they did. Most don’t talk to me anymore, I’m broke and I feel fucking amazing, POWERFUL and free. When literally everything about your life is released, either by you, or the Universe, you realize what’s important and who you’re people are. You gain clarity on who you are and why you’re here, but it doesn’t happen overnight. Instant gratification is some other BS I’m planning a blog on. This human experience is a journey, a process and sometimes painstakingly so…look at how nature works, through it’s cycles, going with the ebb & flow of those cycles. Such is the human experience. A few weeks ago it hit me that I was doing it…the same fucking shit, over the leap of faith I took. These leaps we take aren’t easy and fear can quickly take over, if you aren’t aware of yourself. Thanks to sweet baby Jesus, I figured it out, called myself out, had a good cry and snapped myself back out of it. Bogs being posted regularly, 2 videos up on 1 YouTube channel & 1 to come for this channel soon. I’m hoping Selfish Mitch will agree to do a reading for you all, so you can see how I use Tarot and my gifts/abilities to help guide you on your journey of self transformation, the journey to self love.
So, what about an overactive Solar Plexus? When it’s overactive you’ll see power hungry, domineering, critical, perfectionist behaviors. I’m certain at least one name came to mind. In the interest at feminine empowerment, this is interesting to me. I feel feminines tend to exhibit these qualities a lot these days to overcompensate for the disempowerment we have experienced for fucking ever, literally since the beginning of time (remember the story of Lilith & Adam?). Although I haven’t gotten into politics much yet, I will…spiritual anarchy will be shared here, at some point…I think of Hillary Clinton and how she didn’t win the election (she was never going to btw…the universe has it’s plans). To me, it was clear that she was not the right feminine, she wasn’t feminine at all…I saw none of the amazing qualities that make feminines, feminine. Grace, nurturing, compassion, kindness…the softness that is what it means to be feminine…the softness that has been taught is a weakness.
The feminine that is needed is balanced, not just in the Solar Plexus, but within all aspects of herself. She is soft, yet strong. Intuitive, yet logical. Loving, yet firm in her boundaries. This is the feminine that I intend to embody everyday and hope to inspire, guide and empower you to do the same, even the masculine’s who read this…we need you to balance your feminine energy, guys. My beautiful divine sisters, these huge shifts are happening to us all…the rise of the matriarchy, the balance of masculine & feminine energy is happening whether we like it, or not. It is Divinely guided as humanity is dire need of this change. As within, so without…it starts with us healing ourselves, knowing ourselves at a soul level, loving ourselves unconditionally. When we do this, it spreads to everyone around. A balanced divine feminine is energy so powerful many don’t know what to do with it…it’s also very rare, so let’s fix this shit together.
Greetings beautiful souls! As promised (look at me go), I’m going to do a series on chakras. I’ll talk today about what they hell they are and a little about each one. Then, post a more in depth blog on 1 (or 2), at a time. Chakra work is one of my favorite practices and I love working with clients on these beautiful little energy centers. Opening and working with my chakras has been one of the most transformational practices…absolutely life changing and it goes hand in hand with meditation, yoga and all things spiritual, plus my specialty…healing.
So, what the fuck are they? Chakras are energy centers located from the base of your spine (Root Chakra) to the top of your head (Crown Chakra). Chakra’s are the control centers, for our balance in our emotional, physical, mental & spiritual well-being. They tell us where fears and insecurities are holding us back from living our most fulfilled lives, our soul driven lives. Working daily with these 7 (with humans evolving to higher consciousness, some now recognize 12, but I’ll focus only on 7, for now) powerful, energy cylinders have helped me heal and transform in ways I never fucking thought could happen. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not always sunshine and rainbows. When you can identify the blockages, you then have to face those shadows…which, let’s be honest, most don’t want to do. It’s much easier, safer to be on auto-pilot then putting the work into being healthy, healed & whole. For me, there really hasn’t been an option, sure I have free will…but a spiritual awakening a fucking rug yanking experience and putting practices like the ones I’ve mentioned into your day make it far less painful. But, like with all practice, it gets easier and easier.
The 7 Chakras (a very brief description):
1. The Root Chakra: This beautiful, red chakra is located at the base of your spine. It influences safety, security & stability. When blocked you may feel: lower back pain, physically tired, depressed, angry, unable to sleep(insomnia) and/or self esteem issues.
2. The Sacral Chakra: This sexy (influences sexual desire), orange chakra is located just below your belly button. It influences creativity, emotional identity, sexuality and happiness. When blocked you may feel: pelvic pain, low sex drive, urinary/digestive problems, emotionally irritable and/or intimacy issues.
***Just a note: These 2 chakras are typically where women have the most blockages…makes sense given our history of abuse and disempowerment.***
3. The Solar Plexus Chakra: The powerful, yellow chakra is located just above the belly button. It influences your will, self confidence and ego. When blocked you may feel: physical stomach pains, indigestion, arthritis, emotionally you may feel anxiety, depression related to low self esteem issues and/or fear of rejection.
4. The Heart Chakra: This important center chakra is green and I’m sure you’ve figured it out…located in the center of your chest. It influences trust, love and compassion. When blocked you may feel: heart conditions, asthma, hopelessness, sadness, difficulties giving/receiving love and/or moodiness.
5. The Throat Chakra: This brilliant, turquoise chakra is located at the center of your throat. It influences truthfulness, communication, self-knowledge/expression and intuition. When blocked you may feel: sore/dry, scratchy throat, thyroid dysfunctions, tooth/gum problems, hearing problems, indecision, lack of creativity and/or mood swings.
6. The Third Eye Chakra: This intuitive, indigo chakra is located between your eyebrows, in the center of your forehead. It influences intelligence, self-realization, imagination and inspiration. When blocked you may feel: headaches, sleep problems, nightmares, learning disabilities, lack of concentration, impaired judgement and/or confusion.
7. The Crown Chakra: vital, violet chakra is located at the top of your head. It influences your spirituality, faith and connection to the Divine (Source, God, Spirit…whatever resonates with you). When blocked you may feel: physical exhaustion, sensitivity to light and sound, aimless, apathetic, lack of spiritual connection and/or materialistic.
So there’s the basics…but there’s so much more to tell you about each one. I have had and cleared blockages in each and every one throughout the past year. For feminines, the lower chakras (1-3) have the most blockages and I have definitely had to do the most healing there. No fucking surprise that the opposite is true for masculine’s.
Chakra work has helped my transformation in such profound ways. It has turned being an Empath from a curse to a blessing, teaching me the power I hold and how I read the energy of others. It has increased my physical, emotional, mental and spiritual awareness that still blow my fucking mind sometimes. It has opened ALL of my psychic abilities to a place I never imagined I’d be and helps me understand the information I am receiving through these abilities. I feel and can identify blockages in others…sometimes it’s so intense, especially with those I have a deep soul connection with. They don’t even have to be near me and I can feel them. I am now able to communicate telepathically with my Twin Flame and that shit is fucking crazy.
Chakra work is intense, but has the fucking power to help you transform into the Divine being you are meant to be…a motherfucking goddess (or god) living her most fulfilled life. While reading this, if something resonates, or you feel twinges/pain in any of these areas….your picking up where blockages are. Hit me up if you have questions, would like to do a chakra reading. Selfish Mitch had graciously volunteered to do one on the YouTube channel for you all to see how it works…hopefully I’ll see her beautiful face soon so we can do just that.
Peace, Love and Light to Each and Every One of You
Crystal lovin’, chakra balancin’, high vibin’ spiritual ass G
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I’m going to be honest, I seriously have no fucking idea what I’m doing with my life. I’m stuck between the old Ego me and still discovering the authentic me. It’s weird, like I’m floating between the two and some days I just want to go back, be a teacher, live paycheck to paycheck, sometimes I wish I hadn’t awakened, that I didn’t know what I know. Not just about myself but about the humanity, the universe. But I am too awake to know that that is Ego talking, the safe, comfortable and familiar is what we as humans always go back to, even when it goes against out intuition. We have been programmed not to trust ourselves, our truth. We have had fears and insecurities instilled in us for lifetimes. (I have done some past life regression and Tarot readings and HOLY SHIT…more on that to come.) We don’t just carry pain these self-limiting beliefs from this lifetime, but from every lifetime and from our ancestors. The need for all of us to heal is deep, I feel the Universal energy gently pushing us to awaken, to transform through healing. So, that’s pretty much what I’ve been doing, healing myself. Literally, just that, no job, bills piling up, debt growing and still no fucking clue how to use this new me and my natural gifts/abilities to help others heal. My giant leap of faith is feeling pretty overwhelming right now.
So, I’m in a place where I’ve really had to look at patterns of behavior and thought. Our though patterns can be severely limiting. That bastard Ego is always trying to take the upper hand. I will not let it win this time…my big pattern…PROCRASTINATION…pretty sure there’s a whole lot of us with this self-limiting belief pattern. Through mediation, guidance with Tarot cards and journal I understand why, we as humans, procrastinate. It’s about a lack of self-confidence, a fear of failure, it really has nothing to do with laziness. We are all energy, and having high vibrational energies is what is natural to us as spiritual beings. We have learned to use procrastination as a band-aid for not believing we’re enough, we are deserving. I am guilty of it, for sure. Sure there are times, when we procrastinate and it’s just about not wanting to do something that isn’t as fun as something else…I’m all for that procrastination…Life is supposed to be fun! We should always choose the things that bring use joy. Writing today is my way of breaking out of this stupid, fucking pattern that doesn’t serve me. I intend to start writing at least 3 times a week…if anyone wants to hold me to it, please do 🙂 I also set some other goals today while journaling.
When I feel Ego and low energies coming in, I first have to identify if they are mine or not. The Empath struggle is real. When they are not mine, I simply say, “Please take your shit back with love and hugs from me.” Sounds crazy, but for any Empaths out there, it really works for me. It’s the same with Ego, I know it is not a though coming from my soul, or the Divine (the medium struggle is real, too). Ego speaks differently, it’s harsh, judgemental, negative, pointing out faults. Our soul and the Divine speak from a place of unconditional love, gently, positive, supporting our authenticity. Just taking a few, quiet minutes (mini-meditations, I like to call them) can help pinpoint where emotions and thoughts are coming from. Once this is identified the self-healing, self transformation, the self-love can begin.
Keeping it real…loving myself is the hardest fucking thing I’ve had to do, but Oh My Goddess is it transformational in all the most glorious ways. Truth, I am NOT going back, I will not be a slave to outdated systems. I will EMPOWER myself by sharing my truth & honoring my soul’s purpose to be an Empath Healer, because this is what makes ME happy. Take some time today to reflect on your thoughts and energies…choose to make your heart, your soul, YOURSELF happy.
Peace, Love & Light
5D Girl in a 3D World
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