I didn’t really write out goals for 2018. I didn’t do a vision board, I didn’t do a blog, I didn’t even drunkenly scribble anything on a napkin at 11:55 on New Year’s Eve, which would totally be my style.
2017 actually went pretty damn well for me. I lost a ton of weight, I was doing pretty well in my career, my kid graduated from high school, and things were overall pretty good. I figured I’d just roll that right into 2018 and keep it going, right?
That’s not how it works, folks; at least that’s not how it works for me. I feel like we are fed a lot of bullshit both by people we know and the media about how people just kind of sail along in life with everything coming easy. Most people, even really good people, are really full of ego and afraid to admit when they stumble and when things are really hard for them. I think we don’t even want to admit it to ourselves when we fail, especially if we really fuck it up. We sure don’t want to admit it to anyone else! I get that we want to project our best selves on social media and to people we don’t know very well. In fact, I tend to skip over posts on social media by some people who are always bitching about one thing or another. I feel like it’s kind of a balance, and social media gets really toxic really fast, especially in today’s world. I made a decision to keep my social media positive but real a long time ago, especially since I use it for business as well. Let’s face it, folks, we’re not going to change the world by arguing with strangers or people you haven’t seen in a decade on Facebook. That’s not a thing. If people don’t think you care about them, they’re not going to care what you have to say. I feel like it’s possible to make someone smile or laugh, or even motivate them with a positive post, but calling someone a “libtard snowflake” or a “racist Republikkkan” isn’t getting us anywhere, and almost everything devolves into a shitstorm in the comment section. Peace out, social media comments.
We need to make real connections, and pick our PEOPLE, and keep it totally real with these people. Call them on the phone. See them in person. Hang out, via facetime or by going to lunch. Share your struggles and share your victories. Mourn your losses and celebrate your successes. Build that network of people you love and who love you, and love honestly and without restraint.
It wouldn’t be this blog if I didn’t remind you that you need to be the person on the top of that list. Love yourself like crazy, but be honest with yourself at the same time. I’m taking some time to reflect this week over my 2018. There were some great things that happened for and to me this year, and I also had some devastating losses. I was lifted up and I was knocked down by myself, by people, and by the universe. That’s how it goes. I’m really focusing on feeling the losses and the knock downs as a way to really reflect about how I could have handled them differently. Some of my problems were caused by me, so I need to be aware of that. Some of them were factors out of my control, but I CAN reflect on how I reacted to things.
I think it’s really important to recognize the darkness for what it is and was so that you can truly appreciate the light. How did you get out of darkness? Did you let it slide into your being this year like I did?
This is the time for reflection. This is the time to realize that we can’t really appreciate the absolute highs unless we recognize and deal with the lows.
I’ll be coming at you with a goals blog in the next couple of days, because I believe more than ever that goals and intentions are super important. But for now, I invite you to take a little time to think, cry, feel, and scream. Feel the lows, then we’ll workshop how to handle them going forward.
-Love, light, and very temporary storm clouds,