Oh love, where do I even begin…the heart chakra is located in the center of the chest, no big surprise there. When this green chakra is balanced we feel peaceful, loving, accepting, compassionate, warm and open. I feel it’s important to point out that this chakra is all about pure, unconditional love…one of the highest vibrations we can have. Sadly, this pure love is rarely experienced. As within, so without…my mantra…meaning what we feel on the inside is what we experience on the outside. In my experience, most humans do not have this type of love for themselves, therefore cannot give this pure love to others. Hurt people, hurt people…it is not love that causes pain, it is the absence of love, of self love. We are not hurt by love, but by humans that do not know how to love. Self-love is the foundation to living a fulfilled life.
Meditation and chakra work have been instrumental practices for my journey to self love. Chakra’s help identify where healing needs to take place in order to develop a pure love of self. As an Empath, it’s always been easy for me to give pure love to others, expecting nothing in return…it’s what Empaths do. However, giving myself that pure love was another story. An overactive heart chakra will manifest feelings of jealousy, co-dependency and self sacrifice. The last 2 being huge in my life. I would give and give and give and get nothing in return. Conditioning has taught feminines that this is an acceptable way to live and I see this happen far to often to amazing women. Let me tell you something…NO ONE WILL FILL YOUR CUPS FOR YOU, YOU HAVE TO DO IT FOR YOUR DAMN SELF!! One, if not the biggest lesson, I have learned through my spiritual awakening. Once you are in the space of pure love of self, it is absolutely magical what comes back…pure love…fucking weird, lol. I feel many believe that pure love means giving and being walked all over, at least that’s the way it worked for me. Now that I absolutely love me, all of me (shadows included), boundaries have become easy. With me it’s pretty simple, if you come at me with low vibes, you gots to go. It’s harder with family, of course, but there are still ways to protect your energy and keep it vibin’ high.
When the heart chakra is blocked, we encounter humans who are apathetic, bitter, hateful, intolerant and have trust issues. Anyone come to mind? I don’t know about you all, but i can think of many. Actually most people I know, don’t have much self love going on. My mother has been the hardest person to set boundaries with, but as uncomfortable as it was, she is beginning to respect them and what a fucking change in our relationship. Self love has also made it easy for me to see that her judgments are simply a reflection of her, nothing to do with me. That’s the thing we’re not taught, that the people who hurt us are hurting on the inside…it really has absolutely nothing, not a single fucking thing to do with us. Yet, we take it personally. If you have read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, I suggest you get a hold of it.
Self love is about accepting all that one is…light and dark. Showing yourself compassion and forgiveness when mistakes are made. Understanding that we are perfect souls, having imperfect human experiences. It’s the absolute, utter knowing that you are perfect just the way you are. It’s forgiving those who hurt us, but more importantly forgiving ourselves and it’s fucking hard, but oh so worth it. Self love is more than facials, spa days and shopping…it’s implementing daily practices like meditation, yoga, whatever the fuck makes your heart happy. It’s digging deep, using the information from chakra work, to identify where healing needs to take place in order to get to that place of a balanced heart chakra. As a healer, it’s what I teach and guide others to do, so please do not hesitate to reach out if interested and committed to doing the work it takes to love yourself, fill your own cups and live the fulfilled life you deserve.
Peace Love & Light Y’all
P.S. What are you doing today to show yourself some love?
P.P.S. Energy Infographic: