Are You Busy?

The holidays are a super busy time, right?  How are you feeling about this holiday season…Busy?  Frantic…like there’s never enough time?  Stressed about money, when/how you’re going to get it all done, making sure those you hold dear are happy?  If any of this resonates with you, not just during the holidays, but at any time…you are busy.  Busy avoiding yourself, busy trying to people please, busy denying yourself the love, joy & abundance you deserve… Busy letting ego tell you, you are not worthy of your time.  Time is an illusion, Einstein told us that.  Like everything else in the Universe, time is energy.  Always fluid, always flowing, each moment filled with infinite possibilities…How are you spending it? Where are you focusing your energy?
If you say you don’t have time , you’re too busy to do the things that make your heart happy, make you feel good then you are not making yourself a priority and
you are avoiding healing fears centered around worthiness.

This shift (self-worth)has been huge for me.  I’ll be honest, putting myself at the top of my priority list has been challenging.  I have never made myself a priority, as an Empath giving comes naturally, wanting to make people happy is a priority and man, was I a people pleaser, everyone, and everything, was a priority.  I was always busy…with work, kids, friends, family, and significant others, never really taking time for myself, thinking that was selfish. I would feel guilty when I did things for myself, believing my happiness came externally.   In this country, busy has somehow become synonymous with success…from my perspective, that is complete & utter bullshit.  FUCK THAT NOISE!! We, especially those of us with dominant feminine energy, have been programmed to believe we must give & give to everyone & everything around us. To put ourselves last on the priority list. In this process, we lose ourselves, we lose our joy, our power. We must be protective of our energy (even more so for Empaths).  If you are “busy” in every aspect of life except in putting yourself first, you are wasting your precious, fucking time.
One day I finally sat down and looked at these questions…Where is your time(energy) going? Which aspects of your life are taking the most of your time? How does that make you feel? I realized that all of this time I was giving was going to everyone but me and it didn’t really make me feel so great. In fact, I felt empty.  I began to unlearn what I had been taught.  I let the shift happen.  I began implementing daily practices that were all about putting myself first (gratitude, being present, chakra work), finally understanding that the ONLY person I can make happy, is ME.  I can’t choose happiness for anyone else, but what I can do in choosing it for myself is radiate that energy to those around me.  Ask yourself these questions, answer them honestly, if your answer doesn’t light up your heart chakra, then you are wasting your time, your energy. The choice is yours.

As humans, we are conditioned to not be present.  We focus on the memories of the past and expectations of the future.  Both take away the only time that matters…now.  We only have the present this moment to do what makes our hearts happy.  BE PRESENT.
Your time is valuable, if you are giving it to others & not yourself you are letting ego tell you that you are not worth your time. Think about it…all this time you give, do you feel you are receiving it back? Do others give you their time freely? If the answer is yes, awesome! If not, think about to whom & where your time is going. Release what no longer serves you. Take that fucking time back and give it to your damn self. Use it to do whatever it is that makes your heart happy, that shows yourself you are worth it! Let me tell you something…you are worth it! You are full of love, light & unlimited potential.  You are the creator of your reality, your time…how do YOU want to spend it?

Peace, Love and Light Beautiful Souls


Busy Being Happy with my Damn Self

P.S.  Chakra work is no joke…once you begin opening them, there is no going back.  Big changes in self awareness will occur and it’s AMAZING.  If you’d like any guidance/have any questions, feel free to comment, or e-mail me at  I will being posting more about Chakras soon.

Author: Blackbird Goddess

We're two long time best friends collaborating on a blog about learning how to live a fuller life by putting yourself first, even though we approach life in very different ways.

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